I had the distinct honor to hear Harvard Business School professor and author, Clayton Christensen, speak on his book “The Innovator’s Dilemma” and the consequences of disruptive technology at a Telecommunications conference back in 1998. He is a very engaging speaker and has a lot of wisdom to share so when I saw an article by him entitled “How Will You Measure Your Life” in the Harvard Business Review, my interest was piqued.
Here is a link to the full article: http://hbr.org/2010/07/how-will-you-measure-your-life/ar/1
On the last day of this year’s HBS 2010 class, Dr. Christensen asks his MBA students three questions and asks that they turn his management teachings on themselves in finding the answers. His questions are 1) How can I be sure that I’ll be happy in my career? 2) How can I be sure that my relationships with my spouse and my family become an enduring source of happiness? And 3) How can I be sure I’ll stay out of jail? He notes that Jeff Skilling of Enron fame was a HBS classmate of his so the last question is not totally off center.
Regarding the first question – how to be sure we find happiness in our careers, he quotes Frederick Herzberg who believes a more powerful motivator in our lives than money is the opportunity to learn, grow in responsibilities, contribute to others and be recognized for achievements. Christensen teaches that managers have the opportunity to help others to learn and grow, take responsibility, be recognized for achievement and contribute to the success of a team. He asserts that these are the more important yard sticks than just money.
Regarding the second question – How can I ensure that my relationship with my spouse and my family become an enduring source of happiness? – Christensen asks the students to define and implement a “strategy for your life.” Strategy evolves from actions. Poorly designed actions cause unintended consequences. Design the purpose of your life on the front end and create a strategy to fulfill that, rather than make a series of short term decisions made in the heat of the moment that might well result in a less than ideal life. Properly allocating “scarce” resources of time, energy and talent will shape your life strategy. Or in other words, don’t short change the things that are most important to you. Creating a culture of learning, cooperation and respect in the household is much better than coercion, threats and punishment, which we know quit working as children reach their teen years.
The third question – how to live a life of integrity (stay out of jail) – requires we avoid “marginal cost” mistakes. Marginal cost as it relates to life can be thought of as the one-off decisions that go against our morals and values. “Just this once” decisions is a slippery slope than can land a person in jail. Define what you stand for and don’t be drawn in to “marginal” thinking.
Christensen’s final recommendation is to think about the metric by which your life will be judged, and make a resolution to live every day so that in the end, your life will be judged a success.
At Bolen | Dodson & Associates, we focus our attention first on the meaning of life – your life; what do you value? What is important and worthy of attention? We then work to have the client’s monetary resources support that life. As it says in Ecclesiastes, if you focus on the money, you will never have enough. Money provides a cushion, but nothing more. Life is about relationships. Love God and love your neighbors. These are the true riches.